Lessons From 5 Years of Caring for Loved Ones With Dementia
Debra Westbrook never imagined she’d be accused by the police of stealing her mother’s pets. But that’s exactly what happened one evening when the sheriff showed up after her mother, who lived next door, reported the “theft.” In that moment, Westbrook realized that dementia was rewriting her mother’s reality—one hallucination at a time. Her mom thought Westbrook had snuck in and out of her bedroom window and left with a cat under her arm. At first, it was deeply upsetting, Westbrook told The Epoch Times. “She looked at me so seriously and said, ‘Debra, I saw you,’” she said. In hindsight, Westbrook sees the humor in such an improbable accusation. “I learned then that caregiving for someone with dementia means accepting a new reality and learning to navigate it without judgment or argument,” she said. That night marked the beginning of a long, frustrating, but ultimately transformative experience for Westbrook and her husband, Billy, as they cared for her mother and her mother-in-law, b...